Abrahamic / Middle Eastern Christianity 6 Tips on How to Pray Prayer Tips From the Bible Share Flipboard Email Print Cultivating Prayer as a Way of Life Introduction Learning to Pray Tips From the Bible What the Bible Says About Prayer Health and Wellbeing Healing Temptation Work and the Workplace Salvation Benediction Love and Marriage Powerful Prayers for Couples in Love Wedding Prayers Children and Family Teaching Children to Pray Fun Prayer Activities Christian Family Prayers Prayer for a Godly Life Bedtime Prayers Children's Prayers Morning Prayers Mealtime Blessings Dinner Prayers and Blessings Children's Dinner Prayers Holidays and Special Occasions Thanksgiving Blessings Christmas Prayers and Poems New Year's Poems Mother's Day Memorial Day Independence Day Graduation Duncan Andison / Getty Images By Jack Zavada Christianity Expert M.A., English Composition, Illinois State University B.S., English Literature, Illinois State University Jack Zavada is a writer who covers the Bible, theology, and other Christianity topics. He is the author of "Hope for Hurting Singles: A Christian Guide to Overcoming Life's Challenges." our editorial process Jack Zavada Updated May 03, 2019 We often think prayer depends on us, but that’s not true. Prayer doesn't hinge on our performance. The effectiveness of our prayers depends on Jesus Christ and our Heavenly Father. So, when you think about how to pray, remember, prayer is part of our relationship with God. How to Pray With Jesus When we pray, it's good to know we don’t pray alone. Jesus always prays with us and for us (Romans 8:34). We pray to the Father with Jesus. And the Holy Spirit helps us, too: Likewise, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. How to Pray With the Bible The Bible presents loads of examples of praying people, and we can learn much from their examples. We may have to dig through the Scriptures for models. We don’t always find an obvious tip-off, such as, "Lord, teach us to pray…" (Luke 11:1, NIV) Instead, we can look for strengths and situations. Many Bible figures showed courage and faith, but others found themselves in situations that brought out qualities they didn't know they had, just as your situation can do today. How to Pray When Your Situation Is Desperate What if you feel backed into a corner? Your job, finances, or marriage may be in trouble, and you wonder how to pray when danger threatens. David, a man after God’s own heart, knew that feeling, as King Saul pursued him across the hills of Israel, trying to kill him. The slayer of the giant Goliath, David understood where his strength came from: "I lift up my eyes to the hills—where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth." Desperation seems more the norm than the exception in the Bible. The night before his death, Jesus told his confused and anxious disciples how to pray at such times: "Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in me." When you feel desperate, trusting in God calls for an act of the will. You can pray to the Holy Spirit, who will help you overcome your emotions and put your trust in God instead. This is hard, but Jesus gave us the Holy Spirit as our Helper for times like these. How to Pray When Your Heart Is Broken Despite our heartfelt prayers, things don’t always go the way we want. A loved one dies. You lose your job. The outcome is just the opposite of what you asked for. What then? Jesus' friend Martha was brokenhearted when her brother Lazarus died. She told Jesus so. God wants you to be honest with him. You can give him your anger and disappointment. What Jesus told Martha applies to you today: "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die. Do you believe this?" Jesus may not raise our loved one from the dead, as he did Lazarus. But we should expect our believer to live eternally in heaven, as Jesus promised. God will mend all our broken hearts in heaven. And he will make right all the disappointments of this life. Jesus promised in his Sermon on the Mount that God hears the prayers of the brokenhearted (Matthew 5:3-4, NIV). We pray best when we offer God our pain in humble sincerity, and Scripture tells us how our loving Father responds: "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." How to Pray When You Are Ill Clearly, God wants us to come to him with our physical and emotional illnesses. The Gospels, especially, are filled with accounts of people coming boldly to Jesus for healing. Not only did he encourage such faith, but he also delighted in it. When a group of men couldn't get their friend close enough to Jesus, they made a hole in the roof of the house where he was preaching and lowered the paralyzed man down to him. First Jesus forgave his sins, then he made him walk. On another occasion, as Jesus was leaving Jericho, two blind men sitting by the roadside shouted at him. They didn't whisper. They didn't talk. They shouted! (Matthew 20:31) Was the co-creator of the universe offended? Did he ignore them and keep walking? "Jesus stopped and called them. 'What do you want me to do for you?' he asked. 'Lord,' they answered, 'we want our sight.' Jesus had compassion on them and touched their eyes. Immediately they received their sight and followed him." Have faith in God. Be bold. Be persistent. If for his own mysterious reasons, God does not heal your illness, you can be sure he will answer your prayer for supernatural strength to endure it. How to Pray When You Are Thankful Life has miraculous moments. The Bible records dozens of situations where people express their gratitude to God. Many forms of thanks please him. When God saved the fleeing Israelites by parting the Red Sea: "Then Miriam the prophetess, Aaron’s sister, took a tambourine in her hand, and all the women followed her, with tambourines and dancing." After Jesus rose from the dead and ascended into heaven, his disciples: "…worshiped him and returned to Jerusalem with great joy. And they stayed continually at the temple, praising God."God desires our praise. You can shout, sing, dance, laugh, and cry with tears of joy. Sometimes your finest prayers have no words at all, but God, in his infinite goodness and love, will understand perfectly.